Cocky and Funny Lessons For Guys
David DeAngelo – author of Double Your Dating ebook [Robrob8's favorite
dating guru]
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*** Why the cocky and funny attitude is
attractive to women... and how to use it. ***
I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite get the Cocky + Funny
attitude.
It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting
their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could
or should make them feel attraction.
I can understand this, because I was exactly the same way the first few
times I heard it and saw it.
I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only
going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me
more."
Well, was I ever wrong.
You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't
follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful
emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first
glance...
I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreated
them, abused them, and were
exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.
Why?
ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may
sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can
convince a woman feeling a strong attraction to leave.
So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky + Funny
attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without
having to be an abusive jerk).
First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny.
Always both. If you act too cocky, you'll come off as arrogant and
insecure only. If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making
people laugh, you will probably come across as "too goofy."
But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is
like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's
interesting when used with skill.
So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.
Here's a cocky statement:
"Her dress makes her look fat."
Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:
"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are
going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."
Get it?
Start with arrogance, then add humor.
So why does it work to attract women?
Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:
COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL
THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.
Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are
attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.
Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to
them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get
nervous just being in the same room with them.
If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard
time about something, busting on her, and have fun, it basically says:
"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a
lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me
nervous in the slightest, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so
comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to
make fun of..."
There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes,
beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky +
Funny.
(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)
Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the
results.
Here's a low-risk example:
Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for
your groceries, say:
"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the
money)
She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."
To which you can respond with:
"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich
and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl."
(Turn up your nose)
This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or
famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up
her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.
One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If
she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said
that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...
Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."
DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.
In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open
mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look, and says "Hey! I may not
be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good
enough, I need RICH AND nice."
Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by
teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny that it ignites the
magical challenge/attraction mechanism.
By the way, once you can see that you're getting a good response from a
woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork
trying to make her laugh.
As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin
"extending" the conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking
things to the "next level".
So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny
will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.
And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really
need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!
In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST,
EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.
If you'd like to get a "fast track" education on Cocky & Funny, then I
HIGHLY recommend that you check out my online eBook "Double Your
Dating". You can download it and be reading it within a few minutes. Go
and download it here:
www.doubleyourdating.com
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David D.
